OKAY THEN Ashanti … so she claims to have that ‘good good’ – but don’t we all?
. . .In my opinion yes.
It’s no question, that we as women have the power to literally whip a man into submission using sex as a weapon. Wars have been waged, lives have been lost, and countries have been formed with sex as part of the basis of the conflict.
God created sex, so OF course it is a powerful thing – though it’s often abused.
It has the power to strengthen marital bonds, and most importantly – it’s the catalyst for procreation.
Unfortunately many people misinterpret the so called ‘power’ of sex.
How many women believe they can keep a man based solely on sex and nothing else?
How many women compromise their bodies and their morals by using their self-proclaimed sexual prowess to attract male suitors, only to be left feeling used, lonely, and worse off than before?
Why is it that the Karma Sutra Queen, claiming the ability to work it, twirk it, show it, and throw it better -and more often than every other woman, still stands to get left behind for the girl who can’t even twirl a hula hoop?
I’d like to take a stab at why. Sex is but a supplementary part of love. Many folks confuse sex with love. I’ve seen so many people bring sex to the table early on, and feel a sense of entitlement because of it. But heed the warning: anyone can get sex from anywhere. If you don’t believe it – just Google ‘the world’s oldest profession’!
I can only speak from the mind of a woman, but I am of the opinion that in most cases – it’s The Person Behind the P_ _ _ _ that will keep the man around. All of us women have the same thing – the huge variance lies in how much we value it. …and “it” alone is not what’s going to make a man stay when he is itching to wander.
Men – correct me if I’m wrong … please. Again this is my P.O.V.
Thus, the woman who may not be road-tested, may need a little practice when she feels the man is deserving enough to have her body. But because she's exhibited so many qualities that make her worth keeping around, OUTSIDE of the bedroom, her man will most-likely not mind showing her the ropes - as opposed to proceeding further with the Karma Sutra Queen who felt inclined to give up the goods early on - thinking that the dude would be whipped enough to remain with her, instead.
All of us have the ‘good-good’ … but what do you have that individualizes you from the other billions of women on earth who ALSO have ‘that Good Good’? What are those things, exclusive to you, that will keep the man coming back for more (not just physically), and keep him respecting you after you’ve shared this precious part of yourself?
In college I was asked by a male accquaintance why some girls made the decision to abstain from sex until marriage. He brought up the potential of not being ‘up-to-par' or experienced enough to please/satisfy their husbands. Funny how dudes pose questions like this, but on the flip side, don’t want women with miles on them!
Concern, and Contempt make strange bedfellows!
Truth be told … though it’s viewed as old fashioned, I TOTALLY see why – at least in my faith, sex is designed to be reserved for marriage. If both parties have gone the whole courtship abstaining from sex, and getting to know one another on more important levels before getting physical, I personally feel that when you do cross that line – it can’t help but be or eventually become that ‘good-good’. In my eyes, that is the ULTIMATE level of physical intimacy.
Ladies, we have some tokens and treasures available for us to utilize in our search for Mr. Right ... just like Super Mario has all of his prizes to help him reach level 8 and rescue the Toad Princess. Save your main treasure for last! Put your intelligence on the table first, along with your interests, and your overall personality (your mushrooms, and your stars).
If he makes it past the initial barriers, maybe you can whip out that fire flower.
But don’t go using up your all your feathers, frog suits, and whistles on Level One!
Dude will take your whistle – blow it, get warped into ANOTHER WORLD, while you're still stuck there on the first level wondering what happened!
So what separates the mediocre from the good-good?
I would say, respect for oneself, and restriction. Again, if you take the time to let a man know the person behind the p_ _ _ _, and not take you for a spin, you might get him to stick around for more than just a test drive. I think Steve Harvey has the right idea with His 90 day trial period (for those who choose not to adhere to abstinence). And if the man isn't patient enough to stick around to get to know you before getting the goods...well maybe he shouldn't even be in the running FOR the goods? (Red Flag ... better yet CHECKERED flag)
Anyhow – not the most concisely-structured rant – but that’s what on my mind.
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